Back to the Future

Man, this long weekend/short week has really thrown off my schedule! Not that I’m complaining, of course. I just realized I’d probably end up not posting this week at all if I didn’t do it now, so here it goes. This past weekend, AJ and I traveled to St. Michael’s, Maryland, right on the eastern side of the Chesapeake Bay, for the wedding of my best friend from high school. It was like being in the Twilight Zone. Let me explain.

I went to middle and high school with the same group of people. Despite being in a very large school (my high school had almost 5,000 students the year we graduated), most of us were in the same classes together over and over again because we were two years ahead in math, and there was basically only one schedule that could accommodate that throughout middle school and high school. As such, we all became pretty close. With the competitive schedules and grades that we had, the vast majority of us went out of state for college, and pretty much everyone moved somewhere else after we graduated. As such, I haven’t seen most of these people, with the exception of my 3 closest friends, since probably freshman or sophomore year of college at the latest – maybe 8 or 9 years. That’s just how it has worked out. None of us went to our 10 year reunion, either, because it was in South Florida at the end of July and really, who wants to do that? No one.


Just some of the high school crew on Friday night

I have to be honest, I was pretty overwhelmed to see everyone at first. I’m not really sure why. I guess I just didn’t know what to expect. As a result, I may have drank way too much wine at the welcome reception on Friday night and I may not have done my optimistically/stupidly scheduled Saturday long run. Oh well.

I was just so excited to see everyone and to introduce them to AJ. He got to meet my fifth grade boyfriend, fellow members of my elementary school math team, and people with whom I shared countless Friday nights at Ruby Tuesday and the movies. They occupied a huge amount of time in my life, and we have some amazing memories together! Although I haven’t seen my high school friends since basically graduation, we see AJ’s all the time – almost all of them live within an hour of us. So I was excited to turn the tables and make him listen to my high school stories, for a change!

What I wasn’t prepared for, though, was how, for lack of a better word, weird the whole experience was. On the one hand, I’m surrounded by all of these people who have known me longer than anyone else who is still in my life, except my family. These people saw me through all of my awkward stages and teenage drama. And yet, on the other hand…we kind of don’t really know each other anymore. A lot has happened since high school! So it was weird to feel so comfortable and yet sort of like a stranger at the same time. It was like nothing had changed and everything had changed, all at once. I think I told AJ about 400 times how weird yet awesome it was and he eventually tuned me out.


My husband is so handsome!!

But anyway, the point of the whole weekend was to see my friend Scott marry the love of his life and girlfriend of 7 years, Cristina! I’m not an emotional person and I’ve never cried at a wedding, but I had a feeling this one might get me. I was right. The whole ceremony was so personal and the love those two have for each other was evident. Scott is an incredible person with a heart of gold, and seeing him so happy had me in tears. It turns out I do have feelings after all!


Me and the groom! One of my oldest and best friends. T-Rex Mom said I look drunk in this picture. Thanks to Friday night, I most definitely was NOT.

This wedding was so much fun that I even got AJ to dance! That almost never happens. But the whole vibe of the weekend was just so positive, happy, and in a way, life affirming. We’re all good people. We’re all successful. We’re lawyers, accountants, consultants, journalists, and we spend half our lives in the swamp (ok, that’s just me). We own houses and are married, we love to travel, and we are starting to have kids. And despite everything that has changed, nothing can take the memories we’ve built away and the love and respect we have for each other. So while it may be another 10 years til I see everyone again (although I certainly hope not), I take comfort in knowing that those bonds will never be broken.


Sam, one of my best friends in middle school and high school! We see each other every year.

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