I think there’s a law somewhere that every blogger has to write a post about their New Year’s resolutions, right? It certainly seems that way, and as a rule-follower myself, I would hate to upset the cosmic balance. 2014 was the first year that I actually stuck to my New Year’s resolution, which was simply to make choices that make my life more interesting. I can say with 100% certainty that I did that:
- I had my feet on the ground in 7 countries, including the U.S., Japan, Canada, Ecuador, Colombia, Peru, and Curacao
- I took the plunge and had back surgery
- I followed my heart and moved to Tulsa for the summer to devote 100% of my energy to Ramblen
- I got engaged
- I moved back to South Carolina and started a new job
- I finished my master’s degree (did I tell you guys that?)
- AJ and I eloped
- I worked really hard on figuring out what makes me happy
- I put my heart and soul into the mental aspects of eating disorder recovery
I’ve taken big risks this year and haven’t shied away from making choices that were unpopular (or extremely popular) just because someone else did or didn’t like them. I have lived outside of my comfort zone, and I was rewarded richly. The past 4 years have been the most transformative of my life, and while some of that might just have to do with that mid-late 20s soul searching, I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I have pushed myself really, really hard.
The reason I believe this resolution was so successful is because it was a change in my thought process, not simply my actions. The actions followed the thoughts, as it were. This year, I’ve decided to adopt another single resolution geared towards a thought process, since the last one was so successful.
My resolution for 2015 is to make choices that are good for my physical, mental, and emotional health.
This resolution has been born of a few factors: my seemingly never-ending health problems, the mental fatigue I’m feeling towards training, and a desire to live a happier, less stressful life. After all, many (although not all) of my problems are of my own creation. Seems silly to complain about something that I have control over, right?
By focusing on the three areas of my health, I hope to alleviate some of the anxiety I struggle with. I actually started working on this at the beginning of December. Here’s what it looks like so far:
- Take the focus off weight loss: I want my workouts to be about what makes me feel good, not about what burns the most calories. If I don’t feel like running, I’m not going to run. The important thing is to move my body each day and promote health. Example: While I was in Florida for our wedding/Christmas, I worked out every day. Some days, I just walked, others I ran, and some I did barre. Some I did all 3! I let how I was feeling guide what I wanted to do, and if I was tired, I slept.
- Think about what I want: I’m certainly guilty of letting peer pressure get the best of me at times. I’ve run many races and done plenty of things simply because I didn’t want to miss out on the fun my friends would be having. The most recent example of this was doing the full marathon at Rehoboth Beach, which ended pretty disastrously. In 2015, I’m not going to train for events I don’t want to do, go on trips I don’t want to take, or anything else just because someone else is doing it. Example: Amanda is about to train for a full Ironman. I am not.
- Remove stressful people and situations from my life where possible: Like many people, I can be a bit of a people pleaser. I don’t like hurting people’s feelings and I have a hard time sticking up for myself. I am working on setting boundaries for my mental and emotional health and explaining them in a compassionate way. Example: I recently turned down my ex-husband’s friend request on Facebook because I know being friends with him would effect my emotional health in a negative way.
- Eat what makes me happy: Each day, happiness with food is defined in a different way. Most of the time, I want to eat food that makes my body feel good and healthy and strong, so I focus on that. Some days, I really want to bake cookies and eat a lot of them. The key for me has been thinking about why I want to eat a certain food and how it will make me feel later. Example: While home in Florida, I generally ate really healthy meals – lots of seafood, rice, and beans. Knowing I was fueling myself in a healthy way helped me to feel better about drinking the extra glass of wine or another slice of wedding cake and enjoy those times with my family without (as much) guilt. Last night, I wanted to eat some cookie dough out of the container, so I did, salmonella risk be damned.
I’m sure there’s a lot more ways I can focus on my health, but to be honest, it’s taken me three days to write this post in the first place because I’m a terrible blogger, so I’m going to end this here. Besides, I really want to know what YOUR New Year’s resolutions are (or if you hate New Year’s resolutions), so leave a comment and tell me!