Focusing On the Positive

Well, I got nominated for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award by my friend Michael over at Running Around the Bend (Thank you! Even if you just did this to torture me!), and although I’m pretty sure he nominated everyone he knew and I pretty much never participate in things like this, I decided to play along. I think the rules of this are that I’m supposed to write out some random facts about myself and then nominate other people to do the same, but I’m not going to do either of those things because I don’t feel like it.

I wanted a new angle, so I started out writing five things I like about myself and five things I dislike about myself, just for the sake of balance, and I noticed something: it was very challenging for me to come up with more than one thing I like about myself (and even harder to write about them), but it was very easy for me to come up with things I dislike about myself. Then, I noticed how depressed I was getting writing about the things I dislike. Although I’m happy to tell you all of those things, I don’t think it’s beneficial at this particular moment in my life, so I decided to focus on the things I like. I invite you to do the same.

Five Things I Like About Myself

1. I’m extremely self aware: AJ and I were talking the other day and we both agree that one thing many people lack, AJ included, is self-awareness. Many people are oblivious to what their true talents are, overestimate themselves in areas in which they are weak, or have no idea how they are perceived by others. From the time I was very small, I have always had a very astute sense of self. I know my strengths and my weaknesses well. I generally am aware of how I come across when speaking to other people. I think it’s a huge advantage because the more you know about yourself, the easier it is to focus on your strengths, learn how to work around your weaknesses, and control your social environment. That being said, being self aware can also be pretty torturous, because you don’t have the benefit living in la-la land where you’re good at everything and everyone likes you. Nonetheless, this is the thing I like most about myself. For better or worse, I know who I am.


2. Integrity is of the utmost importance to me: When I was a kid, my dad owned his own business. The one thing he drilled into my head over and over was the importance of being honest in your business dealings and your personal dealings. My father is a man of tremendous personal integrity, and that is something I have strived to have, particularly in business. I would rather be a failure than be successful because I lied or cheated or wasn’t true to my morals and values along the way. That’s the reason that you don’t see a lot of sponsored posts or advertisements on this blog. Do I have a problem with people that do those things? No. I just don’t personally get a lot of offers that I genuinely feel good about passing along to you. It’s not worth the money or free stuff to me to pretend to be enthusiastic about a product or service. Personal integrity has become increasingly important to me as I’ve gotten older, and I place a high priority on it in my life. I might never be the wealthiest person on the planet, but I’m ok with that.

3. I prioritize adventure: As I mentioned in my New Year’s resolution post, my goal for this year is to make my life more interesting every day. I can say with no qualms that I have succeeded in doing that so far. I’ve always been a pretty adventurous person; it’s hard to break 12 bones during your childhood without a penchant for the slightly dangerous and interesting side of life. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve really focused on how to add excitement and adventure to my life, whether it’s through traveling across the world, taking chances in my career, or simply deciding to go kayaking for a couple hours instead of sitting on my couch. I really like that about myself, if for no reason other than I usually have fairly decent blog content and I’m interesting to talk to at parties.


4. I can adapt to any social situation easily: Despite the fact that I’m a pretty serious introvert and I don’t actually feel comfortable in a lot of social situations, I’m lucky to have always been very socially intelligent. I can easily modify my personality to suit the environment, whether it’s a loud party or a business meeting. I’m capable of interacting with many different personality types, and one thing I hear frequently is that I make people feel comfortable when they’re talking to me. It’s easy for me to sense what people need or want out of a conversation and what I need to do to get to that point. That being said, I find the process exhausting. Interacting with new people has become increasingly challenging as I’ve gotten older, and taking time to be by myself and recharge is extremely important to me. While I don’t necessarily prefer to be thrown into a ton of random social situations, I like knowing that I can handle it and it’s not going to be a disaster.

5. I am not quick to anger: It takes a lot to make me angry. I can count the number of times I’ve yelled at someone on one hand. I think this comes back to the self-awareness thing, and also the fact that I have pretty good control over my emotions in general. As a child, I observed that the least emotional person in an argument almost always won the argument. It seemed that yelling or carrying on never got anyone anywhere. That resulted in me taking situations that upset me and then analyzing them so that I could formulate my thoughts and present a coherent argument as to why the other person had upset me rather than just ranting like a lunatic. Most of the time, I found that my feelings went away after a few hours and it wasn’t such a big deal after all, so I began actively forcing myself to take a few hours or days before addressing the situation to see if it was really still important to me. This has served me well on more than one occasion, and I definitely think it’s an asset.

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