This week, I tried to focus on just taking it one day at a time. I knew it would be hard to get in many runs because of my schedule, which was obviously not ideal. With getting my foster son ready to go back home, work travel, and a bunch of appointments, this was the busiest week I’ve had in a while. I have to say, I am looking forward to getting back to a somewhat normal routine over the next few weeks until we get our next placement!
Monday, 10/9/17, personal training – chest and back: I tried out a new topical anti-inflammatory on my shoulder, and although it was a little weird, I have to say I had a pretty good workout! I’m still able to do bench press, and although I definitely can’t do the weight I used to thanks to my shoulder, I was able to do quite a few reps at 85 pounds – the most I’ve done in a while. My chest and upper back were pretty sore the next day, so I guess it’s mission accomplished!
Tuesday, 10/10/17, 4 mile run: Ugh, Tuesday was such a gross day. The temps were in the mid 70s in the morning and it was nearly 100% humidity. We haven’t had a day like that since August! Pearce and I got our run in, but we weren’t happy about it. I hate that full-body-drenched-in-sweat feeling, especially first thing in the morning after a short run! Unfortunately, I ended up staying a little late at work, so I couldn’t get to the gym. Oh well – at least I ran!
Wednesday, 10/11/17, strength training – legs, kickball: I actually took Wednesday off because I had so much going on with my foster son and my own appointments that I wouldn’t be able to work much. I went to the gym outside of my trainer’s normal hours and only had about 40 minutes, but I managed to squeeze in a killer leg workout that left me sore for days. I think he has taught me a lot, and I think I will probably be able to change my training package to just going a few times a week soon. I think I have learned enough to go on my own sometimes, which has been the goal the whole time! I also made my triumphant return to kickball this week. Since our foster son went home, I was actually able to play. I got on base every time and scored several runs! Tragically, I completely forget all the rules of base running every time I’m out there (I panic, even though I know the rules), so I need to work on that. Oh well, we still won.
Thursday, 10/12/17, OFF: I had to head to Savannah for work at the crack of dawn (about 4 hours away), so I knew I wouldn’t get a workout in. I’ll wake up a little early to work out, but my personal cut-off is waking up before 5 am. If I have to wake up before 5, it’s just not happening.
Friday, 10/13/17, personal training – full upper body: I wasn’t sure I’d be able to workout on Friday, but I ended up getting home from Savannah earlier than I thought. I made it to the gym for a full upper body workout. It’s really just depressing how little weight I can do anymore, but the important part is that I’m moving my shoulder and keeping up my strength as much as possible. Doesn’t make it any less annoying to go from 20 pound dumbbells to 5 pound dumbbells, though!
Saturday, 10/14/17, 5 mile run: After only running once during the week, I wanted to try and get out for a few miles on Saturday morning before attempting a Sunday long run. I took it easy and listened to a podcast. I definitely didn’t feel great, but I was glad to get it done and carry on with the rest of my day. I guess that’s to be expected when you’ve slacked on running all week!
Sunday, 10/15/17, 11 mile run: I’m not sure when I will learn not to stay out late the night before a long run, but it was not this week. We went to Fall for Greenville, a fun food, drink, and music festival downtown on Saturday night, and I definitely was not in my best form for Sunday’s long run. Pearce and I both struggled and it felt much harder than usual, but we did it! This was our last big long run before we take on the Spinx Half Marathon in a couple weeks!
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Our first foster placement, a 5-year old boy, came barreling into our lives the day after Labor Day. We had no idea what to expect and were, frankly, a little terrified at the prospect of going from no kids to a 5-year old overnight. Now, 5 weeks and 1 day later, we’re saying goodbye as that sweet boy heads back home.
“I could never be a foster parent. I would never be able to say goodbye to the kids.” That’s what AJ and I hear most often when we tell people we are foster parents. I’m not sure if they think we are just heartless and made of stone and we have no emotions, or if they think we just have some superhuman emotional strength that they don’t possess. Either way, the result is the same: many people do not consider foster carer because “saying goodbye” would be too hard.
Yes, there are times when a child is returning to a situation that you might personally feel is unsafe. Unfortunately, that happens a lot. There are times when a placement is disrupted because the child is not the right fit for your family (i.e., behavior issues may be too much to manage). There are times when you might have believed that you were on the path to adopting the child and then the goal of Social Services suddenly changes back to reuniting the child with their family. Those are hard circumstances and I’m not qualified to speak on them – we have never experienced those situations. But I want to offer a different perspective, so that people know there is something out there in between “My heart is shattered into a thousand pieces” and “Thank goodness that hellion is gone.”
In this case, we are truly, genuinely excited for our foster son to be returning home. It’s not because we want our lives back (although I do look forward to occasionally sleeping past 7 am) or because he was poorly behaved (he wasn’t). We’re excited for him because it means he will be back with the family that he loves and that loves him! We truly believe that when it is safe (and of course, it is not always safe), it is always best that a child be with their biological family. We have been blessed to develop an awesome relationship with his biological mom and siblings during his time with us. We have come to know them as people, to understand what they are struggling with, and to see them do their best to change their circumstances. For us, fostering isn’t just about fostering kids, it’s about fostering families – offering support when we can (and when it is appropriate) and helping families get back on their feet.
So, to see a family succeed is exciting! Knowing that our little guy gets to go home and be tucked in every night by his mom, who loves him very much, and be surrounded by his siblings – we could not be more thrilled. With that said, of course, we will miss him. There’s something very special about your first foster placement, and we will certainly never forget the impact he has made on us. He has taught us so much about ourselves and the world in just 5 short weeks. And, I take comfort in knowing that we have made an impact on him, too – he told his mom yesterday that he wants us (including the dog) to come to his next birthday party. As I tucked him in last night, he said “Daniel, when I go home, can you live with me at my house too?” 5 weeks later and he still doesn’t quite know my name, but at least he knows I love him. That’s what matters, right?
In truth, this has been the best possible transition that we could have possibly had. We found out a week beforehand that he would be leaving (that’s basically unheard of – normally, you have maybe a few hours notice), and I was able to coordinate directly with his bio mom so that we can drop him off at home, leaving the social workers out of it. All told, it couldn’t be a better situation, which is really what can be said of this entire placement. We were really eased into foster care big time, and while that doesn’t mean every second (or any second) has been easy, we couldn’t have asked for a much better first placement.
So this morning, for the first time, we’re waking up without our little guy, who inevitably would have crawled into our room to sleep on the couch by now. There will be no giggles as I help him brush his teeth, no begging me to please let him bring his giant stuffed animal to school, and no “one more hug” for the dog on the way out the door. But at home – his home – there will be all of those things. So today, we are celebrating. See you at your 6th birthday, kiddo.
A bum back and a bum shoulder kept me down a bit this week. That’s life, right? You do the best you can with the time and resources you have. My body may not have been at 100%, but I did fit in as many workouts as possible while balancing another week of foster parenting. No heroics, just getting it done.
On the topic of my shoulder, I found out this week that it looks like I will probably need surgery. After getting my MRI results back, that seems to be the route it is heading. I have a consultation with an orthopedic surgeon on October 17th, at which time I’ll know for sure. I was a little surprised, but there is a lot going on in my shoulder (a bunch of cysts, bad tendinosis, a probably labrum tear, and changes to my collarbone). It makes sense that I am having so many problems, but it is still always sort of a surprise to hear you need surgery. I’ll let you know when I find out for sure!
Monday, October 2, personal training – full upper body: Although I thought my back was cured when I did my long run last week, it wasn’t. In fact, my run ended up making it worse, although I didn’t feel it while I was running. My back wasn’t in a position to run on Monday, so I just focused on the gym instead. The workout was nothing special since my shoulder is really limiting what I can do these days. My physical therapist and I discussed all of the movements I do at the gym and I’ve been cleared to do most of them, with modified (ie much lighter) weights for the time being.
Tuesday, October 3, unexpected OFF: I had intentions of going to the gym, but a lengthy parent-teacher conference and some other fostering stuff took up my entire afternoon. Oh well! Win some, lose some.
Wednesday, October 4, 4-mile run, personal training – legs: My back was finally feeling well enough, and I enjoyed 4 solid miles with Pearce on Wednesday morning. I would prefer to be running 4 days a week, but the last few weeks, I’ve only been able to manage 3. Still, I’m mostly feeling pretty good. Personal training was leg day, which was a sweaty and rude awakening after not being able to move around too much previously because of my back. The good news is that it all felt pretty good! Lots of lunges and squats, as always!
Thursday, October 5, personal training – deadlifts: I had a GREAT deadlifts workout this week! They don’t bother my shoulder at all since I don’t have to move it very much, thankfully. I was able to do 5 sets of 10 sumo squats with a 70 pounds kettlebell, plus 5 sets of 10 deadlifts at 100 pounds – and it felt much easier than last week. Slowly getting stronger!
Friday, October 6, 4 mile run, personal training – full upper body: I felt like a giant pile of garbage during my run on Friday. It’s fun how that happens, right? No. I felt so out of shape and gross. My diet has been really bad lately for no good reason, and I think it is starting to catch up to me. Hopefully I’ll be inspired to fix that soon! Personal training was ok, but I had intense physical therapy on my shoulder on Friday morning and it always hurts after that. I did do my highest weight ever on tricep pull downs – 80 lbs! And it honestly felt pretty good – I did 2 sets of 10. To think that when I started back in June, I could barely do 30 pounds, it’s a huge improvement!
Saturday, October 7, 10 mile run: It’s hard to believe, but Pearce and I have been training for the Spinx Half Marathon for a full month now! I thought my long run on Saturday would be awful. I got very little sleep all week, then went out for a date night (finally!) with AJ on Friday night (our first since we started fostering) and stayed out late and ate and drank too much. In fact, Saturday really went better than I expected! The half marathon is at the end of October. Hopefully, I will still be able to do it – assuming I don’t have surgery before then.
Sunday, October 8, OFF: Planned off day! Woohoo! It was rainy, hot, and gross all day, so I’m really glad we didn’t wait til Sunday to do our long run.
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This week was all about the unplanned rest day! AJ was out of town for work from Sunday through Friday night, so I was living my best single parent life all week. As a result, I definitely didn’t have as much time to workout! Still, I thought I could get in a workout every day. Sometimes, life just throws a wrench into your plans, and this week that happened in the form of back pain and an unexpectedly busy day. I still managed to get in 4 days of workouts, but it’s not exactly what I had hoped for. Oh well!
Monday, September 25, personal training – deadlifts: Deadlifts is quickly turning into one of my favorite days of the week. I’m still barely doing any weight, but it feels like a lot to me! I did 5 sets of 10 at 100 pounds for stiff legged deadlift and then a bunch of other variations with lighter weight. I never fail to get sore from deadlift day!
Tuesday, September 26, 3 mile run, personal training – light full upper body: I intended to just do an easy three mile run, but I ended up doing a progression run! I didn’t have much time to work out, and I ended getting faster each mile, with my last mile being 8:50! Exciting stuff. I headed to the gym at lunch. Since my shoulder has been getting progressively worse, we’ve back way off on weight and are only doing the exercises my physical therapist recommended. The highlight of my workout was watching a client getting into a full-blown screaming match with her trainer over a workout she didn’t want to do. Who does that?
Wednesday, September 27, 2017, unplanned rest: Oops! Things got crazy with work and I had scheduled an emergency massage appointment to try and work on my shoulder, so I was not able to work out at lunch. Oh well! It was probably for the best anyway because the massage therapist told me my shoulder is extremely inflamed and I needed to rest it anyway. (Getting an MRI next week, btw!)
Thursday, September 28, 3 mile run, personal training – legs: Thursday’s run was nothing special, but 3 miles was the best I could do in the short time I had between dropping off our foster son and needing to get to work. So, 3 miles it was! Personal training was leg day and I literally did over 200 lunges and 200 squats. I don’t ever do squats with weight because I’m not supposed to have weight directly on my spine (aka a barbell across my shoulders), but you definitely start to feel any squat after 200 of them.
Friday, September 29, unplanned OFF: I woke up on Friday with terrible back pain for no obvious reason. Leg day, maybe? I have no idea. I had a pre-work physical therapy appointment for my shoulder and tried to work out at lunch, hoping to just get an arm workout in, but I was in too much pain. I left the gym after 5 minutes. SAD!
Saturday, September 30, Yom Kippur: Fasting from sundown on Friday to sundown on Saturday plus services on the holiest day of the Jewish calendar = no workout! My back was still bothering me so oh well. I did pretty well with fasting (no food or water!) until about 4 pm on Saturday afternoon, and then I started slowly losing my mind. I think I would have eaten my own arm and drank my own blood if I had had to go another day, but I did it!
Sunday, October 1, 9 mile long run + 1 mile with the kiddo: I wasn’t sure how my back would feel during my planned long run with Pearce, so I was prepared to cut our run short if needed. Fortunately, I felt better after warming up and we ended up having our best long run so far! The low-50s temps definitely helped. My sweet foster son wanted to run with me today also, so we did a mile together later in the afternoon. Chalk it up to 10 miles for the day! Of course, now my back hurts, but oh well.
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I’M ON A PODCAST!: I am SO EXCITED to announce that I was interviewed last week for my favorite running podcast, The Ali on the Run Show! You probably remember me talking about the podcast a lot during training for the Prague Marathon because I listened to it on all of my long runs. Ali’s interview style makes you feel like you’re running while having a conversation with a friend. Although we have “known” each other through blogging and social media for years and are basically best friends, we have never met in person, and I was beyond excited and honored when she asked me. In fact, I think I very professionally replied “OMG YESSSSS” to the email she sent me asking me if I wanted to be featured. ANYWAY, we cover a ton of different topics ranging from foster care to running, the hardest part about eating disorder recovery, mental health, my blogging regrets and more! It’s definitely the most personal I’ve ever gotten during an interview and I’m really excited to share it with you. Listen to it and/or download the episode here!
Tailwind Nutrition: If you’ve been following my blog for a few years, you know that my fueling needs are…complex and sporadic, to say the least. From severe acid reflux that makes stomaching most things on the run a challenge to excessive sweating (especially in the summer) that makes fluid replacement a near impossibility, I have often struggled to find fuel that works for me. When Tailwind Nutrition offered to send me some samples of their endurance fuel, I actually almost said no. I was sick of trying different fuels that tasted horrible and just made me feel sick. However, I decided to take them on the Tour du Mont Blanc with me and was pleasantly surprised! Not only do the flavors taste good, they didn’t make me sick, and I got the electrolytes and carbs I needed to keep hiking. Do I think that, like the slogan says, Tailwind is “All you need, all day?” No. I personally need a lot more fuel than that. But at 200 calories, it was a good place to start!
The Try Guys: If you have never watched Buzzfeed’s video series “The Try Guys” before, I don’t know what you’re doing with your life. I really don’t. It is literally exactly what it sounds like – a group of 4 guys that just try out new/weird/strange things and make videos about it. Each one makes me laugh hysterically, and I’ve come to have very strong opinions about each of the Try Guys and which one is my personal favorite on any given day. Just go watch all the videos right now, come back and we can discuss. My current favorite video is this one:
Aventura Bethel Cardigan: If you’ve been peeping my Instagram stories lately, you’ve probably seen me wearing one of two things every single day for the past few weeks. One of them is the Bethel Cardigan from Aventura Clothing! The company generously offered to send me three pieces from their fall line, and I also got the Kineta leggings (which are a super flattering 7/8 length and HAVEEEE POCKETSSS!) and the Delta Top. I’ve gotten so many messages from people asking about the sweater, so I wanted to pass it along! It’s the perfect length and colors for fall and I’m obsessed. I am living my best athleisure life pretty much all the time these days, and the sweater has the perfect polished look to make it look like I have fashion sense while still keeping me super comfortable.
The Tooth Fairy Doesn’t Knock: If you are a parent who is sick of reading your average children’s book, The Tooth Fairy Doesn’t Knock is written for you. This hilarious take on everyone’s favorite tooth goddess is hilarious for kids and adults alike! The boxed set also comes with a “fairy door” to mount on your child’s wall, and it is seriously the cutest thing. The company that makes the book, Funny Fable Productions, also makes hilarious t-shirts that I have to stop myself from buying on a daily basis. “Toyz N the Hood?” Amazing. Even better – the company donates a portion of each book purchase to The Water Project to help kids around the world get access to clean water.
KUHL Arva Hoody: The other piece of clothing you’ve likely seen me wearing every day lately is the Arva Hoody from KUHL. It’s no secret I’m obsessed with KUHL‘s clothing – after all, it’s literally the only brand I brought with me to hike the Tour du Mont Blanc and trek in Nepal – but this piece is definitely one of my new faves. It’s lightweight enough to not make me sweat this time of year, but still heavy enough to have some structure and weight. My favorite part is the asymmetrical zipper – once again, making me look stylish! I love all of the fall pieces I have received as an ambassador, so be on the lookout for more if/when the weather ever cools down (it was 92 today, kill me).
Chicken and Kale Burgers from Costco: I don’t really ever talk about food on the blog, but my current food obsession is the Chicken and Kale burgers they sell at Costco. I am not a chicken burger person, but these are just so damn good, and there are hints of mozzarella in there too. Whether you find them at Costco or your local grocery store, just find them immediately and buy them all.
My grandmother is moving to South Carolina!!: I am SO EXCITED because my grandmother is moving to South Carolina! She has lived in Florida, about 10 minutes from where I grew up, since I was 9 years old. She’s 92 now and it’s getting harder for her to live on her own, but she can still do a lot of things independently. Still, we worry about her a lot. So she will be moving to an independent living facility about 15 minutes from where I live in Greenville! I cannot wait. She and I are really close, and I’m so excited to be able to spend a lot more time and all of the holidays.
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Disclosure: As noted in the post above, I received several items for free. I was not compensated for this post and all opinions are my own. This post does NOT contain affiliate links.
In case you haven’t figured out from the title of this post, AJ and I have a big announcement! Probably the biggest announcement in the history of my entire blog. We will be opening our home and becoming foster parents at the end of this month! We started the licensing process back in April 2017 and figured it would take about a year to complete, giving us plenty of time to wrap our brains around the prospect of our entire lives changing. Spoiler alert: it did not take that long. I have a whole separate post coming on all of the nitty gritty details of the licensing process, in case you’re curious. But today, I want to tell you about what led us to this decision, how our feelings about it have changed, and what we think about it now. Brace yourself, this is a looonnngg post.
As long as I can remember, I have always wanted to adopt children. I guess you can say I feel “called” to do it. I would consider having biological children if it was important to my partner, but the one thing I knew for SURE was that I would adopt someday. I didn’t know from where or what ages or genders or races, but adoption was non-negotiable. I have made this abundantly clear in every relationship I have ever been in. Over the years, I’ve been very intentional about checking items off my bucket list (like trekking in Nepal, visiting New Zealand, hiking the Inca Trail to Machu Picchu, seeing Victoria Falls, and going on safari in Africa) because I knew that I did not want to start a family feeling like I had missed out on something I really wanted to do. As I’ve now checked most of the HUGE things off my list, I’ve started feeling more settled and a little bit more ready to slow my life down, so AJ and I started tossing around the idea of starting a family. Without getting into every detail of the conversation, we decided to start by becoming foster parents.
Talking it Over
I’m not going to lie – there were mixed feelings about this decision at first. I feel extremely called to foster/adopt, whereas AJ came from a place of what would best be described as ambivalence. He wasn’t a hard no, but he also wasn’t super excited about it. We decided that it would make sense to start the licensing process, go through the required training, and see what we decided at the end of that process. If we were not both fully on board, we would not go through with it and would explore other options instead. To make a long story short, AJ got on board pretty quickly. Once he saw the statistics and numbers, started hearing what these kids go through, and started learning about what we could actually expect (versus the extreme horror or unrealistic success stories you usually hear), he agreed – we have to at least give it a try.
This is not a decision we came to lightly. We have thought through and discussed every aspect of this change that we can think of time and time again. After all, our lives are pretty cake right now – we travel whenever we want, go out to dinner, have expendable income, etc. It’s easy, you know? But then I think – how can we not take this opportunity? We have the time, the means, and the space. How can we turn away from these kids, just so we can travel more and go out to dinner whenever we want? There’s nothing wrong with making that choice, and of course, nothing is that simple. I know we will miss the way life was before, probably a whole lot. But I feel like we have to try, because there are kids suffering and not enough good foster families out there. We feel like we can be a good resource for kids and families in need.
At the beginning of the licensing process, we (although mostly me) were extremely nervous about what we might be getting ourselves into. Part of that was just having no experience with parenting in general (what do kids even do these days?), but another part was a deep-seated fear of being totally ill-equipped to handle behavioral issues that might arise due to trauma that the kids have faced. We (and again, mostly me) wanted this to work so badly – we see fostering as a long term thing – and I was terrified that we would become parents to a child with behavioral issues well above our pay grade and we would fail them. After reading more books on parenting kids from trauma backgrounds and attending numerous training sessions, I can now say that we don’t really worry about that anymore. We believe we have the tools and resources we need to help these kids unpack their emotional baggage. That’s not to say it won’t be hard, because of course it will! But now, it seems possible. Now, we (and again, mostly me, because AJ worries about nothing) worry about things like not knowing how to register a child for school. Does anyone know how to do that, by the way?
One thing I’ve noticed over the course of my research and attending the trainings is that we have come to foster care a bit differently than many families in our area do. There are all sorts of reasons why families foster children, but here in the Upstate of South Carolina, there seem to be two big ones based on our experience: Christians feel called by the Bible to do it, or people struggling with infertility hope to grow their families through foster care and adoption. Neither one of those apply to us since we’re not Christian (AJ is Catholic, but that’s not Christian in the south – seriously) and, as far as we know, we are not struggling with infertility. So, that has left us in kind of an awkward spot. We have entered foster parenting with the simple intention of helping children and families who need it – nothing more, and nothing less. We are not fostering with the intention of adopting, although we are open to the possibility if the right circumstances presented themselves. The reality is that something like 50-70% of children who enter the foster care system are reunited with a biological family member at some point, and reunification is the goal of the foster care system, as it should be. We view foster care as hopefully a long term commitment on our part and not something that will end when our family, adopted or biological, reaches a certain size.
There’s a whole lot that happens when you begin the licensing process to become foster parents, but one of the big things is that you decide what ages and genders you would like to foster. When we started thinking about it, we had absolutely no idea! Our application initially said we were open to kids ages 0-18 which, needless to say, is a pretty big range. We had no clue what was right for us! After talking with our licensing coordinator and doing a lot of soul searching, we ultimately decided to open our home to boys and girls ages 4-11. Basically, elementary school age (kids here can start kindergarten at 4). Our primary reason for choosing this age range had to do with a couple factors. First, with both of us working full time and the logistics of the day care system as it pertains to foster care, we felt that we could not reasonably care for children that were below school age. Second, given the fact that we are relatively young (31 and 29), we felt that taking on teenagers would be challenging with no parenting experience whatsoever. We definitely see ourselves working with teens in the future (there is a huge need!) but we wanted to get some experience under our belts first.
After deciding on an age range, gender, and the number of kids (we are starting with 1 but will eventually bump up to a sibling set) you are willing to accept, you then fill out an expansive checklist that talks about a huge range of medical issues, behaviors, and more that you are willing or unwilling to accept. So, for example, the checklist might ask if you are willing to accept a child with a learning disability or a family history of learning disabilities. If you say yes, you then have to say whether you are willing to accept mild, moderate, or severe forms. The list covers everything from cancer to hearing loss to food hoarding issues and mental illness and everything in between! This list helps the licensing coordinator write your home study (the giant report that talks about what you would be like as parents), which the Department of Social Services uses to match a family with a child. Of course, there are many times when a child may come into the foster care system and have issues that are not immediately known about or discovered, so there are no guarantees, but the list helps frame what you do and do not feel comfortable handling.
One thing that is super important to note is that there are very strict rules about sharing identifying information online or on social media about the kids in our care. Namely – we can’t do it at all. So there will never be identifying photos, names, or stories on this blog or any of my social media accounts. I will share some of the ups and downs with you as I can, and I’m happy to answer any questions about the process, but if you are looking for juicy stories about the biological families and why the kids are in care, you won’t find them here.
As I mentioned, we’ve been reading, training, watching videos, and more for months now to get ready. Are we really ready? No, definitely not. But at this point, we feel as ready as we possibly could without having any parenting experience. We have got the kids’ room ready and are slowly accumulating all the gently used clothes, toys, and books we can find. After all, 4-11 is a big age range! We will be opening our home at the end of August but have no idea when we will receive our first placement or how long it will last. We know it will be a whirlwind trying to adapt to becoming parents overnight, so we are trying to enjoy the calm before the storm for now.
The Answer to the Question You’re Asking Yourself Right Now
“Are you really prepared to give up travel?” Of the few people who knew we were becoming foster parents prior to me publishing this post, every single one of them has asked me this question. It’s a fair question, to be sure. And the answer is “sort of.” I am fully prepared to give up traveling the way I do right now, which is constantly and by myself to crazy places for weeks at a time. I’m ready for that because, as I mentioned, I’ve checked the big things off my bucket list already – that was intentional and planned with parenthood in mind. However, one thing we believe we have to offer kids is the opportunity to see and experience the world, and we are hopeful that we will be able to take trips with our foster children as often as the circumstances allow. There will be some kids who are not in a place where they can handle the stress of a changing environment, so in those cases, we won’t. But when possible, we fully intend to take them with us, whether it is to a wedding in New Jersey or Washington DC or out to Utah for a marathon. That said, we also plan to take breaks between each long term placement in order to take a breath and regain a sense of “normal life” for a while – probably a couple months. So, I’ll do big trips during those breaks. Don’t worry, your favorite globe trotter is not giving up the travel lifestyle anytime soon! It just might look a little different.
What about running?
To be honest, I have no idea what my workouts will look like once we become foster parents. I know that my days of two-a-day workouts are probably over. I know I’ll likely be doing early mornings and lunchtime workouts only. But I also know how important working out is for my body and my mind, so I plan to make it a priority to the extent that that is possible. It will depend on the child in our home, but I know I will be healthier mentally and physically (and a much better parent) if I can workout regularly. So, we’ll just have to wait and see what that ends up looking like!
Yup, it’s happening.
At this point, we’re just ready to get started and figure it out as we go. We vacillate between feeling ready and excited and completely terrified and like we’re making a huge mistake. I think that’s probably normal. I don’t know how long we will last or how good we will be, but we’re ready to give it a try. I look forward to taking you along for the ride!
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This was my first full week at home after hiking the Tour du Mont Blanc. While I was mentally ready to jump back into my workouts, my body really wasn’t, as I would come to find out. It can be hard to get your groove back after a long trip, but I normally try toRead more
Hi! I’m back from hiking the Tour du Mont Blanc and I have so much to show and tell you. But I also need to get a bunch of pictures from my friends before I can do that (it’s for your benefit, I promise). And although it is Monday and I therefore owe you aRead more
Ever wondered what it takes to get licensed to become a foster parent in South Carolina? I had so many questions when we first started thinking about going through the process. I vowed that I would record every step of the journey for posterity so that anyone else interested in becoming a foster parent throughRead more
Normally when I write a “Currently” post, I tell you all about the things and products that I’m loving lately. Instead, I thought I’d change things up a bit and tell you the things I’m NOT loving, because there seem to be a lot more of those. I’m going to leave out summer, because thatRead more
I was hoping for a really solid week of workouts before leaving to hike the Tour du Mont Blanc, but that’s not exactly what happened. In fact, this week was the first time I had a really bad strength workout. Let’s dive into it. Monday, August 7, 5 mile treadmill run, personal training – legs:Read more
A little confession: I can’t remember if I ever mentioned on the blog or on social media that I am doing this trip, so it may come as a bit of a surprise. I am leaving today for the Alps! Sorry if I didn’t mention it, as it wasn’t meant to be a surprise –Read more